Do you often find yourself wanting more connection and intimacy in your life, but struggling to create it amidst the complexities of modern life? Do you coach or counsel others on creating more intimacy? If so, you may find this article very useful. The quest for deep and meaningful connection is a very common human [...]

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Our views on gender impact our ability to maintain sustainability, peace, and meaningful relationships with one another. Whatever our own gender identity, gender expression, biological sex, attraction, or preferred relationship structure (see the Genderbread Person graphic for an excellent illustration of all these), we’re all affected to some degree by our societal programming in this [...]

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I was cycling along the quiet desert highways of southern Utah, beginning with Moab and then visiting five other towns, this week 15 years ago. A team of 25 cyclists pedaled to raise funds and awareness for Habitat for Humanity. Utah included one of the toughest segments of our entire cross-continental journey, 208 miles over [...]

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It’s a great disservice to talk or write about sex half-assedly. You need to talk about the entire ass, and all the other parts that go along with it. Maybe that one will end up on one of those little desk calendars someday… Some of the topics we’re most uncomfortable addressing are those that involve [...]

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It’s often been said that “it takes a village to raise a child.” Some researchers believe that at one time, this was much more common in a very literal sense. Ryan and Jethá talk about the concept of “partible paternity” in sexually open cultures, i.e., those where women may have sex with multiple men and [...]

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The Argument for Localized Economies Our modern globalized system has many benefits, including availability of a wonderful array of household products and food choices, along with the cost and quality advantages that often (but not always) come with centralized production. A major issue is that the pendulum has swung too far in the direction of [...]

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This week I’m adding a fun change in pace to the discussion of heavy topics, and inviting your participation. I’d like you to help me celebrate the completion of two works that help to promote a more sex-positive culture: the dance single “Fantasy Girl” (your feedback welcome!) and the cookbook Vegan Chocolate Seduction: 23 Oralgasmic Recipes. [...]

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I had originally planned this post for a few weeks later in the series. Given recent media accusations that presidential candidate Newt Gingrich requested an open marriage, alongside his angry response to them, I decided this topic was particularly timely. Even when I disagree with a candidate on certain issues, I feel sad for them [...]

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Does Skewed Sexual Energy Contribute to Environmental Destruction? Some individuals have examined how environmental issues impact sexual well-being, e.g., how pharmaceuticals and personal care products that find their way into water systems impact our sexual functioning. For example, why are more gender-ambiguous fish turning up in some rivers and streams? These are important questions. It’s [...]

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Many argue that “alternative lifestyles,” a term often used to refer to anyone not fitting into the heterosexual monogamous box, are a threat to the family structure, and thus a threat to the very fabric of our society. For example: “If our little Timmy sees our male neighbor kissing his male partner, he may also [...]

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